Skills for Clarifying, Setting, and Maintaining Boundaries

"When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated." – Dr. Brené Brown

Boundaries allow us to take care of ourselves while interacting with the world around us. This workshop, suitable for family members, those in recovery, and providers alike, offers perspective and three specific skills to help you clarify, set, communicate, and maintain your boundaries.

Want/Willing/Won’t

Click here for a blog post that talks about how to do a Want/Willing/Won’t list to clarify your boundaries.

DIRI

Click here for a blog post offering a conversational structure to make it easier to communicate about what your boundaries are.

The Control Circle

This video is targeted to parents who are struggling with their child’s substance use, but the skill itself can be used by anyone.

It can be really hard to figure out what we can actually do. Sometimes this work can feel a bit disempowering in some ways… but once you are clear about what you can actually and directly choose, it helps you focus on the things that you can do that will fit well with you in the long run.

I made this video a few years ago… and it’s my first one. I tend to talk a bit fast, and this video is no exception. If you want to slow the video down, watch it in YouTube, select the gear icon to access settings, and lower the speed to 75%.